two weeks ago yesterday, i hung out with my previously mentioned friend, misty. we email pretty regularly throughout the week and she was really helpful during the time i was frustrated with claudia at work. to relax, we planned a pedicure day and she asked if i would be interested in running a few errands with her also. i said sure - what girl would pass up bonding time during pedicures?
she picked me up from our apartment at 1:00 (we only live 5 minutes apart) and we headed to mission valley, which is technically a mall but the super big target blends in to the mix as well. we headed to nordstrom rack first where she needed to make a return. i had never been to this store before - it didn't exist in austin. nordstrom is an expensive, higher end store. nordstrom rack is where all of the "out of season" things go - kind of like a higher end ross, but for more expensive clothes. the clothes there are marked anywhere from 50-75% off the original price.
when we walked in, it was SUPER busy. the line was nearly to the back of the store. misty and i looked at each other, shook our heads, and said we'd come back later. we decided to head to the pedicure place instead. she picked out a really dark purple color and i picked out a really dark brown color. in the end, our toes looked almost identical because the colors turned out looking black.
after the pedicures, we headed to target. of course. pedicures and trips to target almost go hand in hand. she needed to pick up a couple of household items, so we headed to the coffee aisle. she picked up the same exact kind of coffee that i drink at home. if you've ever been to our house, you know that in the kitchen, everything is red and our coffee maker only makes one glass at a time because i am the only person that drinks coffee. she asked if i had ever heard of "senseo" [the brand of the coffee maker], and i looked at her and said, "is your coffee maker red?" we burst out in laughter because there are quite a few things that we have in common, so this was just another fun thing to add to the list.
after target, we went back to nordstrom rack. the line cleared away, so misty went to make her returns while i looked around. ross tends to scare me a lot because nothing is organized and it's chaos. that's pretty much exactly the same as nordstrom rack. i felt like i was an ant gathering food for the queen ant. there were people everywhere, quickly searching through every rack. i couldn't figure out the system of how things were organized. i don't have a huge collection of clothes for work yet, so i decided to look through some of the racks for skirts and dresses. misty made her returns and began scrounging through the racks too. we met up at the dressing room and tried on our things.
(i should mention that i was looking primarily for things that would go with brown because i have brown shoes, but not a lot of clothes to wear with them). so, despite my efforts, i find a black dress. it was such an adorable little dress - it was very simple, and had pretty sleeves. the sleeves were the detailed part of the dress. it was originally $140. the ticket said it was marked down to $70, but most of those prices were then marked down even more than that. we made our way to the check-outs. my dress *still* rang up as $70, and i couldn't do it. although i thought the dress was adorable, i couldn't pay that much for the stinkin' thing. i am pretty sure i was pouting when i told the cashier i had changed my mind. in that kind of store, it's not likely you'll be able to find the same exact item in your size ever again because it's such a nightmare. oh well.
when we left the store, we headed to a starbucks, but realized we were both pretty hungry. we decided to call our husbands and invite them to dinner with us. dustyn was able to come, but daniel didn't make it; he sells life insurance and was having an amazing week, breaking sales records, so he went in to work that day. misty introduced dustyn and i to a new restaurant called islands. their tortilla soup is probably my favorite. ever. it's amazing. it has a little spicy kick [which i had been missing... not much is spicy here in cali, although it is all covered in avocado]. they also serve burgers, wraps, salads, etc. yum!
i learned a lot about misty during the dinner though. i think i mentioned before that misty and daniel are in marriage counseling. i thought this was strange when i first found out about it because they were so excited to tell people they found one another on e-harmony. so the fact that they're in marriage counseling is a little shocking to me, or it was at the time. i've since learned that it's not because they're "incompatible", but they've both grown up in such unique/crazy/scary families. i'm pretty sure misty mentioned to me that she was abused as a child. she mentioned during dinner that daniel (who is 31 years old) got a vasectomy. i was dumbfounded because they don't have kids. when i asked why (now that i think about it... that was pretty forward and rude of me to ask why) she said that he is afraid to have kids because his childhood was so bad. he grew up in a similar situation to hers. she was aware that he was having the surgery, and completely supported the decision. so the reason for their counseling is because they've both been through abuse, in some way or another.
i can't even imagine if she was sexually abused and he was abused in some way too, how "dysfunctional" their marriage might seem at times because marriage is such an intimate relationship. they've got to let down a lot of guards to be able to trust their spouse and vice versa. i'm definitely praying for them because it's sad to me that they have to push through this. misty said that if they do one day decide to have kids (she's 27 by the way), he would reverse his surgery or they would adopt. she said they've very comfortable with the idea of adoption.
i had such a good time hanging out with her, but i was pretty confused the week after. i didn't even hear from her until the following sunday. i don't know if she was really busy at work or if maybe we got too "personal" that it made her uncomfortable...i shouldn't speculate, but it did make me sad. i knew that dustyn had a good time at dinner with her, but i was secretly hoping we could have dinner together (the four of us) so dustyn and daniel might find something to bond over.
we still haven't really hung out and it's been two weeks. i do know that misty has a lot of other friends, so maybe she just has to circulate through them and eventually it will be my turn again. i don't really want to push it though because i do know that dustyn is worried about what he and daniel would have in common and he would stress out about what they might talk about. i think that i will continue to hang out with her when the opportunity arises, but more than anything, i will just need to be prayerful that if this is a relationship God wants us to have, that He might grow it.
it's sad that by the time i actually got to write about the pedicure, the polish is cracking and time to be removed. :P
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